Ever heard of the saying “actions speak louder than words”? A child’s character building starts with the parents. With good examples, positive growth will surround the child and vice versa. Now, the question is… What should a parent do?
Here are several DO’s and DON’Ts for you!
DO’s
1. Portray teachable moments
Be nice but stern when they act up. Apply punishments with respect and justice. When you correct your child, always take the time to explain why their behaviour is improper.
Make it a practice to recognise the value you want to impart on their specific behaviour. Always thank them when they finally understand; the ultimate goal is for your children to reflect on their actions. Show them the grace of being good and the benefits of respectful behaviour.
2. Display traits of excellent character
Be the first person they look up to. Your children will observe your day-to-day actions and decisions if you are dependable, fair, compassionate, courteous, and active in the welfare of your family and community. They will also observe that their family experiences happiness, fulfilment, and tranquillity as a result of this conduct.
Always remember that however your child behaves, it reflects the home teaching and the very behaviour of their parents.
DON’Ts
1. Avoid bribing and lying to your children
Giving in to your children every time they make requests would result in entitlement. This would further lead to them not being able to see the long-term effects of their actions, which is destructive and deadly. Always ask your children to earn what they desire. For instance, help around with house chores to increase screen time.
In relation to that, avoid lying to your children. Family concerns – connection with your partner, financial situations, and other critical matters – should be discussed between the parents only.
2. Refrain from gaslighting your kids
A subtle and covert kind of emotional abuse is parental gaslighting. This behaviour erodes the child's sense of reality and emotional stability. Children may get confused, develop greater self-doubt, have worse self-esteem or might experience depression or anxiety.
In the future, the youngsters could face mental health problems including psychosis. Hence, refrain from gaslighting your kids. Make your children feel like home is a safe space for them to share their feelings.
Home is the starting place of love, hope, and dreams
Your children are the future. Treat them like how you wanted to be treated when you were younger - with respect and dignity.